Slovenly

Yesterday was Brighton’s Pride Parade, and I was taken by a report in which there appears to have been a huge amount of litter and rubbish left behind, including thousands of laughing gas canisters and balloons.

Brighton’s residents have complained about the huge amount of litter left behind.

Last year, over 100 tons of litter was collected after the parade.

Granted, any large gathering of people, regardless of the issue, will generate slovenly behaviour, but really…people need to understand that respect is a two way street.

If you march for the demand to be respected, then it’s incumbent upon you to offer the same amount of respect to the environment. And this is naturist relevant because there is a large naturist community within the LGBT community, and naturists should be holding themselves to a higher standard of respect than others. WE demand respect as naturists, and do a bit to ensure that WE clean up the beach after ourselves. You know, ‘leave only footprints, take only memories’.


The same SHOULD apply to the LGBT community. You want respect? Start providing it. As a community, you shame yourselves in this regard! And if anyone thinks I’m having a go at a community, I am! Particularly when you keep demanding respect. As I’ve said, it’s a two way street. 😦

Naturists aren’t blameless, of course, plenty are equally slovenly. But really, Brighton Pride folk! If you’re preaching ‘respect’, start displaying it! The Pride Parade in my home town is always great. The war zone of litter left behind shames you all, though! (Yes, I’m angry…I live here!)

Pookes

In Lace

Staff member and coffee shop manager Julie has pointed us at a shop called ViveNine, which is giving a lace ‘cardigan’ as a group gift. I was so taken with it that I hopped over there to pick it up myself! A lovely little (semi) cover up for whenever you come out of the sea or pool on holiday! Pookes

Body phobia amongst SL designers.


I saw this photo online and I love it!

Mixed gender, shame-free wild swimming that shouts ‘we’re too hot! Let’s get our clothes off in a non sexual way and cool off!’

Europe is in the middle of another record-breaking heatwave, and this sort of photo pretty much represents what all of us, naturist or not, should be doing to cool down.

 

I bet the location of the photo wasn’t officially designated naturist. It doesn’t matter. It’s people doing something entirely natural without shame, or society constructed body shame.

The entire world, within reason, should be like that.

The same body shame exists within Second Life, to the point that many skin/cothes designers are nipple-phobic. As for genitalia! :-O

To me, if I find a mountain stream on a hot day, skinny dipping is entirely natural, anywhere in the world. And the same, increasingly, applies within Second Life. If I find a photogenic location where I can take photos, I’ll readily strip off for them! And the rest of the girls on the staff feel the same. Increasingly, for us, there are NO (or very few) non-naturist locations in SL anymore. Obviously, as in real life, we aren’t going to go nude in a busy shopping mall or shopping fair. But any photogenic woodland, forest, desert or even urban area, if we like the location, we’ll photograph at it.

This conservative mindset in SL and its designers exists because SL (and Linden Labs) are US based, and there is so much uptightness about nudity within US social mores, whereas Europe is much more liberal.

If I was to buy a new SL skin I’d quite like to see what the nipples look like on it, and it’s a source of frustration to find skin stores with censored nipples within the store. The same applies to male genitalia. I imagine the men playing SL quite like the idea of knowing what they’re getting! The full picture! And many SL related blogs similarly self-censor. Please stop! It’s a nipple. The world won’t spin off its axis if you publish a photo of an essentially cartoon avatar with nipples on display.

The world doesn’t spin off its axis if others encounter that nude couple in the stream I started this post with. Everyone survives without scars!

Ella

The Naked Subway

I had the great misfortune to be on the London Underground today, when temperatures down there were well over 100 degrees at times.

The link shows men going topless down there, and that made perfect sense. A shame that women didn’t feel a sense of unity in joining them.


So let’s salute those brave should she have, in the past, for reasons of dares, comfort or glamour photography, who’ve stripped off in the bowels of hell.

I”m delighted to say I’m home now, and fully nude. I expect to remain in this state of undress for the next 36 hours, at least.

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The pareo

Both Pookes and I have been over to the EA Glamour Store, where one of the free gifts available is a pareo, a naturist staple. Even for established naturist women (and some men) the trip from the towel or sun bed to the bar/ice cream stall will involve throwing on a pareo. I’m not quite sure why, I don’t do it on the beach itself, but will throw a pareo around my lower half for the trip from the apartment to the beach, and I’ve never rationalised it. I do like my early morning beach walks before the rest of the family is up, and I do put on a pareo for the 200m from our usual apartment to the shore. After that, it comes off and I walk with it draped over my shoulder or scrunched up in my hand.

Which is odd, now I think of it, as at 7am I’m less likely to be seen by anyone for that 200m walk, than I might be later in the day, when I probably wouldn’t even bother with one.

Anyone got any theories as to why this is? Convention we all subscribe to?

I’ve got numerous colourful pareos that go on holiday, and I’ll add to them if I see one I like. Occasionally, I wear it wrapped at my cleavage (often when cooking, it offers scant protection from splashing boiling water or olive oil when cooking pasta or whatever, but I feel I should protect my more sensitive parts -Jim does the same when he’s on kitchen duties- from boiling water or oil) but it would come off again to eat on the balcony. Now that I’ve thought about it, there’s probably no need to use it at all, but it has just become ‘a thing’, in all circumstances.

In which case, why are all of us naturist ladies bothering? Maybe just go nude from dawn until dusk?

 

 

 

Ella

Coy (and naked selfies)

Almost everyone I speak to these days in real life will, at some time or another, have been photographed nude. And very few identify as naturist.

Sometimes, these photos are ‘for private consumption’, if you know what I mean, and many people in relationships take these kinds of photographs or else do share ‘naked selfies’.

I’ve never been quite sure about naked selfies, and it’s not something I’ve ever done in real life although (obviously, see above) I’ve done them in SL for the purposes of illustrating this blog.

And ‘not quite sure’ when it comes to pressing the button when facing a mirror. Does no one know how to set the self timer on their phone camera and keep the mirror out of shot? :-O

Both genders are at it, and I have to say that while researching I was quite shocked to see that many men, shall we say, prefer to photograph in a state of arousal. For males, it’s a phenomenon (aroused or not) known as Dick Pics, part of the sexting culture.

Over 1/3rd of people in their early 20s have sent or received them, (naked selfies, that is) and 1/4 of people over 45 have sent or received them! 

The reasons for sending them are wide and varied.

Probably because I’m naturist, there’s never been any need to feel we had to take and send them, even when working in different locations for weeks and months on end. Besides, on a sunny day like today, where I’m in the garden, nude, if Mr. Keng was working elsewhere, we’d face time one another (and equally we’ve done that in the dead of winter, where the idea of being naked isn’t an option!) and if I’m naked in the garden, and he’s just waking up in the USA, for example, well, I’m naked! It’s not like he’s not seen me naked before. And we’ve got albums full of naturist holiday photos too, where we’ve taken photos of one another doing ordinary holiday things, just without clothes.

There I am building a sandcastle on the beach with the children. Here is is emerging from the sea. And so on.

The point of this post, in a naturist context, is that if so many people are comfortable posting photos of themselves online (or privately, many of which end up online, and with the knowledge that this is a likely outcome) why are so many people afraid of naturism?

Go to the beach/club. Enjoy the nakedness. Know that, even in a world of cellphones and hidden cameras, the likelihood of being photographed are much less than they would be by taking a naked selfie. If you’re comfortable with your naked body being shared in a cellphone transmitted photo (where it may end up out there, forever) why are you uncomfortable with the idea of going to a naturist beach and dropping the swimsuit?

I really, really don’t get this.

As for the ‘coy’ aspect, some people are happy to be photographed nude if they aren’t recognisable. Perfectly fine by me. Do it! In 50 years, when you’re old and in a nursing home, you can look back and say you were (a) beautiful and (b) had a life.

However, in 50 years I’d like to think that we’re all so over the embarrassment of naked bodies that birthday suit shots on whatever social media looks like then is all rather humdrum and ordinary.

Ella