What is naturism? Let us begin by defining it, and pointing you at how wikipedia defines it.
Naturism or nudism is acultural and political movement practising, advocating and defending social nudity in private and in public. It may also refer to a lifestyle based on personal, family and/or social nudism.
Several other terms (“social nudity”, “public nudity”, and, recently, “clothes-free”) have been proposed as alternative terms for naturism, but none has found the same widespread public acceptance as the older terms “naturism” and (in much of the United States) “nudism”.
Naturism can contain aspects of eroticism for some people, although many modern naturists and naturist organisations argue it need not. The lay public and the media often oversimplify this relationship.
Pay particular attention to the third sentence, that it need not contain eroticism. This is important. Yes, there is a simple pleasure in a naked body, which is why artists, in whatever medium, have returned to ‘the nude’ again and again ever since man started drawing on cave walls. And for me, that is the beginning and end of eroticism in naturism. There is something attractive in observing a lovely looking man or woman in the flesh, or a well constructed avatar in SL.
As in real life (RL) naturism, we forget that the avatar is naked after a while and focus on the person’s personality rather than their looks. We connect, in RL, with their mind, not how ‘drop dead gorgeous’ they are. In the context of RL naturism, we find that the lumpy, middle-aged naturist with a library of memories and anecdotes are sparkling companions whereas, sometimes, the person who is young and beautiful can be shallow and self-centred with little or no personality at all.
I’ve found the same actually applies in SL. I’m actually drawn towards avatars (in a naturist environment or not) who wear ‘older’ avatars, because the chances are they actually are older in RL. And they’re some of the most interesting companions and conversationalists you can meet.
For me, and for most other naturists, there’s no focus or fixation on the body. It’s just the simple pleasure of swimming or sunbathing without a costume, of being able to rise in the morning and wander to the sea for a swim, along possibly public roads, and wander back to a holiday villa once more armed with nothing more than a towel. It’s about, in certain situations, wandering off to the shops armed only with my purse, to wander the aisles of a supermarket nude, pay for it nude and wander home again nude armed with fresh produce.
Ah! Fresh produce. Yes, I’ve found that naturists often embrace a larger concept of what their vision of naturism involves, healthy eating, exercise, arts and crafts. Essentially a return to simpler times. Of course, those simpler times are aided by all modern conveniences, but it’s clear, walking around some naturist campsite in France, or urbanizacion in Spain, that naturists do like to eat well and fresh. At 9-10pm, the barbecues are out and the air full of home made marinades being applied to fresh cuts of meat or vegetables. The air is full of the aromas of herbs, garlic and so on and as light descends, there’s the clatter of cutlery on plates as satisfied diners sink back into their chairs on a terrace, or in front of their tent, and make the simple realisation that life is good and filled with great, simple experiences if you only take the time to seek them out and experience them.
‘Sex’ isn’t part of the agenda. Well, let me re-phrase that. Sex can be part of the agenda. But it’s not taking place in public. There’s no RL equivalent of pink and blue poseballs. After dark, after wine, and after a bit of naked terrace dancing with my RL partner, we do sometimes get amorous with one another. A lazy day in the sun followed by taking the time to spend time with one another, unencumbered by day to day realities, freshly produced meals and some good wine enjoyed under a balmy starlit sky means that our libidos can become aroused. And yes, both of my children were conceived, as far as I can be certain, during lovely, loving naturist holidays.
In SL, there’s often blurring of borderlines, often simple ignorance of what naturism entails. Too many SL ‘naturist’ locations turn out to be nothing more than sex sims. I differentiate. ‘The SL Naturist’ will differentiate. Pink and blue poseballs will not strike ‘nudist’ sims off my review list -sex happens- but poseballs set two metres from the tp point will strike ‘nudist’ sims off the review list.
A lot of people in SL are naturists, percentage wise probably much higher than the general population. Why? Obviously there’s ‘opportunity’. Most people don’t live within RL easy access of a naturist beach. In SL, we’re all a click away from one. What’s the attraction? Partly because, in some people’s minds, nudity=sex. I’ve met enormous numbers of guys who imagine that because there’s nakie girls around, there’s going to be some rapid movement towards that pink poseball. Sorry, guys, no! If you meet genuine RL naturists you’ll understand that sex (in SL) is away down the agenda and perhaps even off it entirely.
Which brings me to…my profile! I don’t do cybersex. I find it ridiculous. There’s a whole world constructed by others out there to explore, and yet for some the sole purpose of logging in is getting a quick bunk-up with the first available female. But I don’t reject cybersex just for the stupidity of oversized penises poking out some poor girl’s back. I’m married in RL. And the idea of cybersex strikes me as being a kind of intellectual adultery. No, I don’t want to hear your theories on how it isn’t. That is my view and one I shall firmly stick to. In the past I’ve muted and defriended ‘friends’ who decided they no longer understood where the line was. It didn’t matter how long I’d known them…click, gone! If you encounter me in SL, read the profile and respect the views. I’ve done all the explanations I’ll ever do on this and I won’t even discuss it any longer. I like social nudity (in and out of SL) but I’m disinterested in sex, relationships, partnership or prim babies. This is not to criticise your SL, should you embrace all of this. It’s your SL and I’m not one to judge. Nor are you one to judge my SL path.
I’ll probably return to the theme of what naturism is, and quite possibly be linking to RL sites where necessary, as this blog develops. In the meantime, there’s lots to do for Issue 1, and limited time to do it in, so I’ll sign off now and -if you’re a genuine naturist on a genuine naturist sim- will probably bump into you in the coming weeks and months.
For now, take care and be nice to each other.