Not bare down there!

Last week I asked the question as to whether I should go ‘bare down there’ on my forthcoming naturist holiday. Oddly enough, Cosmopolitan have just published a survey on men’s attitudes towards pubic hair. (via the AskMen website).

The thing is…why ask men? It’s our bodies, and we should be free to do with them as we please, not what men want us to do.

My poll has (phew!) just closed and it’s a tie…13 votes to 13.



If you’ll pardon the pun, that was a close shave! As we have a tie, we maintain the status quo. This, I offer by way of decision making, is based on long-established British law for maintenance of the status quo in the event of a tied vote. 😉

By the way, remind me not to make stupid offers to Mr.Keng and the readership after a couple of glasses of wine ever again!

I was out this morning at the hairdressers, getting my hair cut before the holiday. While my hair hangs to shoulder length, I often tie it up when on holiday. A beach can be breezy, and wrapping a bandana around it certainly keeps it from flapping around in my face. Either that, or I ponytail it.

When I got home, and decided to reflect this reality, and so I went hair shopping in SL and was thrilled to find two styles in Truth Hair’s Discount room, only L$50 each, that would replicate this holiday styling as far as bandanas are concerned.

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New hairstyles modelled at the ice-cream stand at Su Casa Naturist


I think I prefer the style in the bottom pic, so I’ll go with that in suitable photo-ops when I’m on holiday. I’m still looking for a suitable ponytail style.

And, I’m glad to say, won’t be attacking myself with a razor tonight 🙂

Pookes had claimed ‘she’d save me’ in the comments section of the related post and, indeed, it appears that it’s only her vote and mine that saw the poll tied.

It’s interesting that the Cosmo/AskMen polls kind of reflect a similar sort of divided opinion. Their polls offered more choices for answers on attitudes to female pubic hair, so there’s more variables, but as far as the ‘take it off’ and ‘keep it’ options were concerned, there was very much near-parity in men’s attitudes to it.





L$1 pose sets from Verocity

A key part of playing SL is the social element. Whether chatting or dancing (or both) with friends or partaking in pixel-sex, it’s all about interaction with others. SL’s at its most enjoyable when you’re interacting, and not just lonesomely tramping around a shopping mall.

The interactive part also extends to digesting some of the many, many blogs that exist about SL, from bloggers showing off clothes, home & garden elements, SL travel blogs or even a lifestyle blog such as this one. I have an extensive, and growing, list of blogs that I will bookmark because the writers have something valuable to say about their chosen subject.

Often, there are insights into how others live their Second Lives, and they will come up with ideas that you might not have thought of yourself, and thus you end up in locations you were previously unaware of.

That’s exactly what happened when I read Ever Afterr’s blog and saw her write about a range of poses available from Verocity Poses on the Marketplace at just L$1 per pose (or set of poses). I like poses, because they animate the photos we take for SLN. As a result of reading Ever’s post, I’ve been spreading the linden love in the direction of Verocity. I’ve managed, as a result, to enhance my own SL because I’ve interacted with someone else’s blog. So thanks for the heads up, Ever!!!!! 🙂

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I’m already in Verocity’s Group, but I wasn’t aware of these super discounted poses. By a strange quirk of fate, a Verocity group notice popped up while I was writing this posting, related to these discounted poses. Synchronicity….

I teleported over there and picked out the pose (above) which isn’t part of the discounted L$1 range. This one is on their Discount Room at L$25. I thought it did have a feel of ‘and….on my right….introducing…’ about it. 🙂

I seem to have spent a bit of time today in SL’s discount rooms, finding stuff that proves that cheap doesn’t mean tacky. Yes, you might have noticed the hairstyle I’m wearing is new, and there’s a post coming up about hair later tonight or tomorrow. In the meantime, below, are just three of the poses out of one pack of five I picked up for L$1. I won’t labour the point by doing dozens of poses. You get the picture. They’re cheap but they’re great.

I’ve no idea how many avatars will read or bookmark blogs, but it really is a good way in which to examine and maybe even re-tool your own SL by taking inspiration from some of the remarkable writers and bloggers out there.

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Thanks to Ever Afterr for pointing me in the direction of these poses, with the subsequent photos taken near the SL Office at Su Casa.

Rachel Dolezal

I’m not sure how much coverage the story of Rachel Dolezal is enjoying around the world, particularly in the US, but it’s something the UK media have jumped on. The background to the story is that a leader of the NAACP in Spokane, Washington has been mis-representing her race for nigh on seven years. While claiming to be black, it appears she’s the white daughter of white parents. The curious thing is that I’ve not read, so far, of any outright lies told in the way she got the job with the NAACP. Neither am I hearing of the sort of job she has undertaken for the last seven years either. Which is a shame, because I imagine after seven years in her role it can only be assumed she’s been doing OK. There have also been claims that she told this person or that person that she was mixed-race, but so far that’s all circumstantial and doesn’t really impact on what sort of job she’s been doing. TV channel KXLY appear to have confronted her in a TV interview, however, where she apparently did lie, outright, to camera about her racial background.

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Clearly, also, some sort of re-invention has been going on. But isn’t that something we all do? On a regular basis? Obviously, none of us go so far as reinventing ourselves as a person of a different race, Ms. Dolezal and Michael Jackson apart, but we all reinvent ourselves in small ways.

A painfully shy, awkward and geeky teenager -me- reinvented herself as a confident naturist. A small reinvention, something that occurred on a fairly normal journey through life. We’ve all had circumstances where reinvention simply happened, without us apparently having much control over the process. Life gets you like that from time to time. Hairstyles, hair colour, fashion changes, piercings, tattoos…each and all represent the way in which we present ourselves, and re-present ourselves to the world.

For some, it’s maybe adopting their middle name as the name they prefer to be known by. We grow up under our parents’ influence, maybe with an unfashionable name. I’m loathe to write a name here, as all the xxxx’s will then write and say ‘hey, what’s wrong with being called xxxx?’ You know what I mean. A designer-stubbled, bespoke suit wearing millionaire playboy can be called Scott, or Adam, or something equally manly that matches the lifestyle. Being a playboy called Cyril (sorry to all the Cyrils out there) doesn’t quite tie in, doesn’t sound ‘right’. Of course, not many leading physicists would be called Scott or Adam. They might more reasonably be assumed to have something more important to say in the world of Physics by being called Cyril. Yes, a wild generalisation, but I assume you know the point I’m trying to make here.

Pops stars are called Rihanna. Or Madonna. They aren’t called Doris (sorry to all the Doris’s out there). If we’re born as Doris, we’re probably going to adopt something more outlandish for our chosen musical career.  Amelia Kelly doesn’t have quite the same ‘edgy’ quality as Iggy Azalea, does it? Oddly, Iggy Azalea has previously claimed to have some aboriginal blood (a big tick in the ‘cool roots’ column) while then going on to apparently entirely mis-represent aboriginal people. She also went on to say that ‘my family has been in Australia a long time, over 100 years, so everyone has a little Aboriginal blood in them’. Wow! A full hundred years? About five generations? And she knows that there has to be aboriginal blood because her family has an eye condition only aborigines get. Views being laughed at by many other Australians. I’d never knowingly heard any of her music, but just reading up on her makes me think that there’s more than a little re-invention going on there too.

So I put the ‘not having heard any of her music’ situation to rights, understood about one word in 50 in her ‘controversial’ (yawn!) and ‘edgy’ (yawn!) song ‘Pu$$y’. I looked the words up…

Iggy Iggy pussy illy
Wetter than the Amazon
Taste this kitty
Silly Billy poppin’ pilly’s
Smoke it like a swisher
Lick this philly
Mold em ah! Soak em ah!
Hook em like crack, after shock
Molten ah! Lava drop

Nope. Still don’t understand it. Looks like I’ll have to wait until ‘Google Translate’ comes up with a ‘Bollocks’ option alongside Creole and Esperanto. And if there’s a more worthy case of some caucasian girl with a black fixation, judging by the video, I’ve yet to see it. She’s a bad case of ‘wigga‘.

However, the main point is, we all reinvent in small ways.

Second Life offers us the opportunity to reinvent in huge ways, changing race and gender at the click of a button. The likelihood is that a sizeable proportion of SL’s population do exactly this. The SL community pages were discussing this five years ago (and probably prior to that). It’s not unique to SL. Many men, apparently, recreate themselves as women online in general computing work.

We’re all certainly reinventing ourselves in SL. A few pounds shed here and there. A few inches added (you know what I’m saying, fellas). Receding hair turned into luxurious manes. ‘Fat’ legs given the all-important, apparently, thigh gap. Saggy boobs made perkier. And so on and so on. Yes, we all subtly reinvent in RL and reinvent further in SL.

The Guardian reports on the Dolezal situation, and quotes a professor of psychology and Africana studies at Pitzer College, Halford Fairchild, who says ‘Rachel Dolezal is black because she identifies as black’. I get what he’s saying, but it still doesn’t identify the causes of someone going to such extreme lengths to reinvent when such a sham is likely to be discovered. I can see why some white person stuck in Nowheresville, middle America, may see black urban hip hop culture as glamorous, or dangerous, or exciting, and wish to replicate that. In RL, with the clothes and the music, and in SL by effectively changing race. It doesn’t seem that odd or strange, really.

It will be interesting to see how Ms Dolezal moves forward from here. Perhaps people will determine she’s doing a good job. Perhaps proven lies on her CV will be her undoing. Perhaps we might hear someone focus on whether, in her seven years in office, she has actually achieved the goals of the organisation she represents, and overseen the advancement of ‘coloured’ people. (Odd how the word ‘coloured’ now seems curiously dated).

My expectations are that Ms Dolezal will be pushed from office, regardless of her achievements.

My expectations are that people will continue to swap sex & change race in SL. Perhaps we need to consider the words of the professor, above, and suggest that if avatars identify with a certain skin tone or gender, that makes them that skin tone or gender. Is it such a bad thing anyway? Perhaps if we were to live inside the avatar head of someone of a different skin tone, or gender, we might begin to get a small understanding, via SL, of how it is to be black, or female, or male, or white. After seven years of living a black mindset, I think it’s possible that Ms Dolezal is well placed to understand the plight of ‘coloured’ people in America. Perhaps more so, as she will also understand white privilege when growing up, something no one else in the NAACP will understand to her level.

Perhaps if there are hordes of SL women out there being run my men at the keyboard, perhaps they, too, now have an understanding of the pressures placed upon women, with SL replicating RL to a degree. ‘Nice boobs, love!’ It would be interesting to see if males, who have operated female avatars, have rethought their approach to women having experienced the female perspective, albeit only from within SL.






The naked jogger

The place where I take my naturist holidays holds a naked run/jog/walk (depending on your age or level of fitness) each year. I’ve only been in residence to witness it once, and it usually draws a reasonable crowd of naked runners as well as a decent crowd of equally naked spectators.


One thing you will notice about the female runners is that they uniformly wear a sports bra, to stop things from bouncing around too much, and therefore causing some pain. It’s odd how blogging entries on the SL blogosphere sometimes set you off on a certain blogging path of your own. Out jogging on the roads of SL, as if clad for a naked race, is model Heather, kitted out in items recently blogged on the Second Life Freebies and more site. Each day that passes this blog becomes more and more essential reading!

Heather is wearing a sports bra available from Addams Clothing and Footwear. It’s a L$0 group gift, and comes with a colour change hud that means you can make the top any colour you like. Don’t want to think of it as a sports bra? Fine. Wear it as a cropped top. There are some other free gifts there, including a looser wearing tank top, and sunglasses too.



From the same source, I read that there are men’s vintage sneakers available from the Balkanik Gallery. Again, a free group gift (no joining fee here either). Heather reports that the medium sized fitted her female feet perfectly, thus leaving her kitted out for that naked run!

Both great items to have even if you’re not planning to be part of a naked run. I think I’ll try and pick these up myself later on today.



edited to add: I’ve just received a poster for this year’s race.

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Does the fashion wheel turn again?

I don’t like tattoos myself (you know this if you’ve read SLN for any length of time) but accept it is the right of people to do as they wish with their own bodies.

Today’s Daily Mail (UK) newspaper is reporting that Victoria Beckham seems to be having laser treatment to remove tattoos she has on her wrists, because they are affecting her image as a business woman.

The fashion wheel is always turning. It makes me wonder if a style icon such as Victoria Beckham has decided they’re no longer suitable, how long it might be before many, many others follow suit? After all, it’s often celebrities who lead in the fashion stakes, and people will take their cue from them as to what’s ‘in’ and what’s ‘out’. If Posh Spice has decided that they’re ‘out’ (even though she may, at 41 years of age, be slightly irrelevant to teenagers taking their cue from younger singers and actresses) might it be that others will follow suit? How long until something like this -tattoo removal- becomes a full blown fashion trend?

A little research shows that some celebrities are already having them removed, usually because their inked-on devotion to a partner lasted longer than the partnership itself. Rapper 50-Cent, recasting himself in movies, appears to have had tattoos removed because he was fed up with the length of time it took make-up artists to hide them in films, and because he felt (probably correctly) that their presence saw him being typecast for certain movie roles. Singer Pharrell decided that tattoos were ‘dumb’ when his son was born, and had his tatts removed.

There will be those who will never lose their ink. Those who determine that each one is a reminder of the steps they’ve taken in the journey of life.

And there are those who were young and foolish enough to get them done ‘because everyone else was doing it’.



Despite what disciples of tattoos say, attitudes change. When I was 20, everyone I knew -including me- smoked because it was the cool thing to do. Thankfully, I didn’t do it for long, and quit a couple of years after starting. Now, many of the teenagers and people in their early 20s I know have never smoked. Because smoking isn’t cool. Tattoos are on a similar level, I think, and many will regret their ink in years to come. Many people will never get ink, in the future, because it isn’t ‘cool’.


Victoria Beckham’s wrist shows evidence of a faded tattoo

How people wish to proceed with the maintenance or removal of tattoos is a matter for them. I hope that, if removal becomes the next trend, that the taxes I pay to fund the UK’s ‘free at source’ National Health Service does not start spending part of its budget on tattoo removal. If people were grown up enough to get inked from their own pockets, they should be grown up enough to pay for removal from their own pockets.




Free the Nipples on social networks

The Fresh clothes store has a group gift available right now in  the form of a ‘Free the Nipples on social networks’ crop top. No group join, and it’s L$0 once you’ve been added to the group.

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We’ve long been supporters of the idea, and now you too can express your support. I’ll be out and about in SL today, and while my planned locations (hair stores! Yes, I feel I need another new hairstyle! 🙂 ) demand I wear some clothing, I expect that I’ll be trying to get my message across in this crop top.

Thanks to the Second Life Freebies and More blog for drawing my attention to it.