The Xrysalis Gathering

The Guardian carries a story today about the Xrysalis Gathering in California.

It’s a gay festival, with white people barred.

This reminded me of some of the sims in SL, where gay sims will say ‘no women’, for example. While it’s good, in one respect, that gay people can have sims to go to and thus avoid the awkwardness that might arise from conversations with heterosexuals..time wasted for all concerned…I’m generally opposed to the idea of segregation.

We don’t, as a rule, alter hearts and minds by being isolationist, and that applies to the naturist community as much as gay, black men being ‘if only briefly, entirely free from the white heterosexual gaze’. (Does this sentence strike anyone else as being ‘Peak Guardian‘? ‘Peak Guardian’, incidentally, is where writers wax lyrical on a variety of subjects that just read as the work of someone who is plain, bat-shit crazy in a display of inadvertent self-satire).

We alter hearts and minds by including ourselves in a wider society, be we naturists or black, gay men.

At the danger of digressing again, didn’t ‘one race only, please’ used to be called apartheid?



I asked Ringo, one of my gay SL friends, if he was aware of any segregated gay sims. ‘There used to be French Lovers’ Resort’, he told me, but it has closed. Even so, it was fairly relaxed about its inclusion. After all, you and Pookes both visited it with me! The only women only sim I’m aware of in the context of naturism is Bare Buns. I don’t go cruising, and my profile makes it clear I’m gay. If someone wants to read the profile and hook up, fantastic! But the only one advertising itself as ‘male only’ that I use is the Steamworkz Bathhouse. I wouldn’t be trying to limit my SL experience by saying ‘I don’t want to go where there’s no women’. That seems as silly an idea in SL as it would be in RL. There are a few single-sex sims around, but by limiting half the SL population, they turn out to be not particularly popular. I don’t use them.’


Ringo relaxes at the Ile de Levant naturist sim (report to follow on this relatively recent addition to the SL naturist sims)





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