Checking in

We’ve just pulled into a port for the evening (clothes on as we got within sight of the harbour), and just enough of a signal to be able to say that nude sailing around the Greek Islands is as much fun as you might imagine! I’ll report all when I get home at the end of the week.

trine holiday_001bI definitely don’t have enough power of a wifi signal to log into SL, so here’s a photo taken at Eden Jakarna before I left the UK, showing us about to cast off on our naturist sailing adventure.

See you soon!

 

Trine

Male circumcision & ‘Naked Attraction’

Flicking through the (digital) pages of The Guardian/Observer this morning, I spotted a story about male circumcision and how one husband’s insistence on it for his sons ended his marriage.

With circumcision the predominant look in north America, it’s unsurprising that ‘the look’ is mainly of the ‘cut’ variety.

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In Europe, however, the predominant look is to be uncircumcised (uncut).

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Uncircumcised male naturist with foreskin intact

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Circumcised male naturist with foreskin removed.

There are social and religious reasons for circumcision. It was once believed that circumcising prevented masturbation (untrue) and offered more protection against infections (debatable), which were the social reasons for cutting.

Muslims and Jews routinely circumcise their male children, even now, for religious reasons.

I confess that I grew up in a slightly sheltered environment, and it wasn’t until I became a naturist that I had a range of penises to compare. Because my naturism has exclusively been in Europe, my exposure to the naked male form offered me an overwhelming experience of uncut men.

Of course, there were still circumcised males around, in a minority, and I do remember being intrigued by that look in my early naturist days.

My husband was circumcised as a boy, for a medical condition known as phimosis, that it a foreskin that is too tight for retractable purposes. As such, he never knew sex (or masturbation) as an uncut male and says he’s totally unqualified to comment on whether there is a loss of sensitivity as a result of circumcision.

As I’ve never had sex with anyone but my husband, neither am I in a position to make any comparisons either, but there are many articles on the internet which lay out the pros and cons of sexual experiences with cut and uncut men. There’s also some debate as to whether oral sex is preferable with a circumcised penis.

The internet is full of such arguments, although I draw the line at some people suggesting a circumcised penis ‘looks more natural’. Some of what males were born with has been removed. How is that remotely ‘more natural‘?

Of course, all of this debate is moot in the context of Second Life. What I think Second Life has done, for some users, is to expose them to a circumcised look they might not, as Europeans, or an uncircumcised look, as north Americans, they would have experienced in real life. In a sense, the likes of Second Life (and internet porn, too, of course) have ‘normalised’ the circumcised look for Europeans, and ‘normalised’ the uncut look for Americans.

One thing we can be sure of is that in SL & RL naturist circles it becomes immaterial after a while. We aren’t judging on how our male partners look in that regard, but how they are as people.

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Conversely, UK’s Channel 4 begins a new series tomorrow night called ‘Naked Attraction’, in which people are asked to pick a date purely on the basis of their naked form, and then move to a clothed date to see if chemistry initially sparked by a purely physical attraction to another person’s nudity can develop. I have to say this sounds awful, if only for the fact that it reinforces a link between nudity and sex -something we as naturists are continually begging to refute.

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Ella

 

 

Underwear sunbathing

Oh to be glad that I’m not so young that I’m addicted to social media and need to discuss everything on it.

The Daily Mail asks if it’s OK to sunbathe in your underwear in the heatwave currently being experienced here in the UK.

Does anyone need to seek anyone else’s approval for this? As long as your undies are clean, what’s the problem?

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Fortunately, some rather sensible German gentleman has had the sense to post in their comments section…

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A couple of other comments that caught my eye…

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German avatar Franziska sunbathes in her underwear in Second Life, for the benefit of SL-FKK, ‘but would sunbathe nude in Germany in the park at lunchtime in real life’.

Ella

The Lovers’ tent

I’ve never been much for hunts, and I don’t remember blogging them before. Sometimes the stores are too big and sprawling to even find the prizes (even with clues), but I’m happy to say that the ‘Flirty Summer Hunt’ landed me at the Fire and Ash Design store, and the L$1 gift here is a ‘Lovers’ Tent’.

None of the poses contained therein are of an overtly sexual nature, and are more of the ‘cuddly’ variety.

On a day like today in the UK where temperatures have soared over 30 degrees, naturism will have been a perfectly comfortable garden/beach/sun club activity.

In spells of weather like this we have a tendency to erect a pop up garden gazebo, so that outdoor, nude living is possible without the danger of burning under a particularly fierce sun. I’ve spent most of yesterday and today outdoors with the children, a paddling pool nearby, a table, chairs and BBQ set up adjacent to it, and thanks to increased wireless coverage, I’m posting from there right now, with us having just eaten our dinner.

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Naturist or not, these items of garden furniture extend any family home and provide opportunity for outdoor living. We’ll be making the most of ours while this fabulous weather lasts (note: thunderstorms forecast for tonight with decent weather, not quite so hot, to continue for the remainder of the week).

I suggest that you might wish to pop along to Fire and Ash Design and grab your own copy of the Lovers’ Tent, one in which you can smooch with your S.O at the end of a hot SL day.

Ella

I stand for peace

In one of those weird bits of SL synchronicity, my recent posts have been edging towards how we as an SL community (and in a wider, RL sense, a naturist community), must hold hands in the face of a fractured world out there, one in which -for example- we’ve seen Islam chased from or walk away from virtual role-play.

We’ve witnessed the horrors of Paris, Brussels, Nice, Charlie Hebdo, Baghdad, the Blue Mosque, the blowing up of airliners, Beirut, Orlando and, in recent days, the routine murder of police officers in different locations in the U.S.

Trawling the blog sites this evening I chanced on one of my regular blogs, Lona Lenroy’s, and immediately drawn to her ‘I stand for Peace’ posting.

There’s a Flickr Group, I stand for Peace, where you can post photos of what peace means to you.

One of the things that has struck me about the hate we see is the destruction of ancient cities, such as Palmyra by the medieval death cult that is ISIS/ISIL/Daesh.

These are places where our enlightenment, as the human race, originated. Places where knowledge was gathered, learning spread. Islam, let us not forget, gave the world (in no particular order), coffee, the guitar, algebra, universities, the toothbrush, magnifying/reading glasses, hospitals. Imagine our lives without these. And yet these murdering idiots wish to bomb much of their and our western culture out of existence?

We will be contributing to this Flickr group over the course of this week and adding photographs of our own, of course with our own ‘naturist’ perspective, placing models within locations which will reflect, as best we can, the ancient, wonderful Islamic world, with the power of the nude female intended to create a harsh juxtaposition to the patriarchal, self-loathing of these atavistic lunatics.

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We need a world in which there is respect for one another, either by gender, colour, creed or lifestyle. A world in which we can co-exist in peace.

Ella

 

SL clothes shopping gets tiresome after a while

You’ll know, if you’ve followed either SL-FKK or SL Naturist, that we do like to go shopping for clothes and accessories that may complement a naturist environment.

I know that I do check the blogs regularly for what’s new and exciting.

The answer, for me, is ‘not a lot’. I’ve all the jeans, bikinis, lingerie I’ll ever need in SL, and the clothes eventually begin to look very much the same.

When I started in SL there was greater variety in the clothes available, as designers would try to reflect clothing from different cultures. As time has gone on ‘the rest of the world’ has seemingly been squeezed out by a European/American brand of ‘couture’ (as have the various sims available…Islam seems to have been erased entirely from SL, for example. I’ve been looking tonight in respect of research for a future post, and find there’s one mosque in all of SL, and that built by non-Muslims!).

Aren’t clothes designers missing a trick here? Surely there’s enough regional differences in dress codes to allow people to embrace different clothing styles for SL and offer something entirely different. Some examples of traditional dress are offered on this page.

‘But there’s not really any profit in what’s going to be a limited number of sales’, designers might say. Really? It seems to me that elements of different clothing styles can be adapted for other use in SL.

For example, my friend Omar pointed me in the direction of a shop called 10sai, which is offering a free outfit which I guess is Afghan in intent (or at least from that area of Asia).

Here he is wearing the free (L$0, no group join fee) outfit.

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I like it because it’s different, it’s non-western. I also like it because there’s one element of it I can adopt for a naturist setting…

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I’m sure it was never intended to be used in such a manner, that of ‘the semi-permanent towel naturists sling over their shoulder’, but it’s necessary to ‘think outside the box’.

Omar agreed! 🙂

Well, he is a SL naturist, and I met him some years ago at, I think, Su Casa Naturist. He’s not from a country where naturism is possible, officially at least, and so he uses SL as a ‘second best’, to mix with others of a like-mind.

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Again, this is feeding into my ‘nudity in different societies’ research, which we’ll address soon.

Consider the following…

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I saw this on a pinterest board, of traditional costumes from around the world. The dress, the necklace, the hair, the headscarf, even the paint on the woman’s face (tattoo layer, anyone?) are all ripe for designers to use and broaden the scope of their work, and again this dress could be used in a variety of SL settings, not just within and African sim or on an African styled avatar.

So why not go to it, SL designers, and excite sometimes jaded palettes with the wonderful variety of clothing the real world has to offer?

Ella

 

 

An ‘honour’ killing is simply a murder

There’s a story floating around the media about the death of Pakistani celebrity Qandeel Baloch at the hands of her brother in an ‘honour killing‘.

That is, a family member kills another because they believe the victim has dishonoured the family name.

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Qandeel Baloch

Miss Baloch, aged 26, had become known as ‘Pakistan’s Kim Kardashian’. No lurid sex tape, no ridiculous nude selfies, of course, but some ‘racy’ (in the context of Pakistani society) photos and and a talent for self-publicity that ran counter to the country’s deeply patriarchal society.

She is not the first Pakistani to taunt conservative patriarchs, Veena Malik previously becoming embroiled in such ‘scandals’, and indeed Ms. Malik’s exploits were one of the first stories I covered on ‘SL Naturist’ away back in 2011!

Ms Malik appears to have got married in the interim, had a couple of children and, probably for her own safety, moved away from Pakistan.

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Veena Malik

If anything, Ms. Malik was possibly more outrageous in her pushing of the boundaries, as with her infamous photoshoot in which she posed with a grenade and the letters ‘ISI’ (the Pakistani security services) drawn on her arm.

While this story isn’t directly ‘naturist’, it demonstrates how far behind some countries are in their acceptance of women as equal citizens, how the patriarchy fear a strong woman’s capability to have any sort of power  or independence (notwithstanding the fact that Pakistan previously elected Benazir Bhutto as Prime Minister, with her subsequent assassination believed by some to have been ordered by then President Musharraf).

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In many parts of the world, women continue to be ‘a threat’ to some societies and cultures, and the thought of a naked women -or a woman using her nudity- is anathema, with women always, always, always being subjected to lesser freedoms than the male of the species. It’s not even an eastern/Muslim/Hindu -don’t forget that the rape of young Indian women or tourists is a recurring theme in that part of the world– developing world phenomenon. While the west may be a little more enlightened than to indulge in ‘honour killings’, never forget that top freedom is anathema to many parts of the west, and nudity on social media is a taboo, while the same social media are content to permit depictions of medieval practice, such as beheadings.

All of this is filtering into the articles I’m currently working on, and it seems that parts of these now very long posts will have to be filtered off into standalone posts to ensure that the message isn’t lost.

Ella