The dreaded black stars

There are thousands of SL blogs, avatars who turn their hand to blogging and in the main blog about SL clothing, hair, poses and so forth. What’s new, where and so on. Great! I use many of them daily and I’m not knocking anyone’s work one bit.

What I do take objection to is that a Second Life, that alternative life, is often ruled by first life attitudes. Particularly regarding nipples. Or, at least, just like first life, female nipples.

It seems to me that people just can’t shake off their phobias, at least in this regard. I just don’t get it. A female nipple is more or less exactly the same to look at as a male one.

The absolute ludicrous nature of social media’s objections is laid bare in the graphic above. Cut, resize and paste male nipples over female ones and…problem solved?

And the above photo shows the last, desperate idiotic stand by the likes of Zuckerberg and his flunkies at Facebook for what it is. The nipples are the same, and it’s only the volume of breast tissue (most of the time) that differs. So if that’s the major difference between men and women’s breasts, why focus on the nipple? There’s no logic to it at all. Just as there isn’t in SL fashion blogging.

I seems that it’s fine to blog ‘sexy’, however that’s defined, with hi-cut jean shorts showing half a backside, or bras in which ‘the cups runneth over’. It’s OK to blog ‘slut’ wear described as such, it’s OK to even sexualise an SL teen avatar away beyond whatever age that avatar’s trying to present, but nipples? Even clothes that show nipples evident through clothing (as in something called ‘pokies’) seem to be deemed OK.

Each and every one of these bloggers has it within their gift to simply stop self-censoring. The readership will not drop down in a dead faint if they show a female nipple while blogging. Particularly the nipple of what is essentially a cartoon character. The idea of SL is to be able to have experiences that are beyond some people’s RL expectations, be it parachuting or scuba diving. I could do both in RL, certainly, if it wasn’t for the idea of throwing myself out of an aeroplane or never managing to get the breathing right on an oxygen tank. But I can alter my RL mind set a little to be able to do both in SL. Others may choose to indulge in fantasy, be it as some intergalactic trooper or a sexually liberated experimenter. Real life values or sphere of experience need not apply.

The same goes for nipples. What is ‘G’ rated or ‘X’ rated in RL does not need to apply to SL blogging. Please, ladies (and it’s overwhelmingly ladies who blog), drop the black stars or similar censorship.

 

Ella

Devastated!

It’s one of those rare times in RL, again, where -every couple of years or so- Mr. Keng’s work takes him away from me for a month or longer! Only a month this time, but looked at from this side, it seems a blooming long time until he returns. 😦

Saying ‘goodbye’ to him tomorrow afternoon for a long, long month, and anticipating his return 😦

Ella

Why wear clothes in space?

I came across this article the other day in which someone makes the case for being naked in space travel, although the respondents kinda spoil the argument with practicalities, such as ‘pockets’.

There’s always one sneering realist, isn’t there?

 

Amaris

 

Ella adds: I’ve some new contributors lined up, of whom Amaris is one. I had hoped to properly introduce them first before publishing their first contributions, but I was so amused by the article and comments Amaris provided that I’ve jumped the gun with the article and have gone ahead and published. Proper introductions to follow over the weekend for her and two others…

When real life impacts on SL Naturist

I passed through the lounge this evening and Countryfile was being shown, as a repeat, on BBC at 730pm.

This is the programme that I featured in a blog post before Christmas and gave our Heroes of Naturism awards to presenter Kate Humble and co-swimmer (and film maker) Natasha Brooks for their naked wild swimming exploits in Wales.

I don’t know how people search for things, but 400(!) people have passed through SLN today searching for stories/images relating to the show’s repeat broadcast. Incredible!

Ella

 

‘Naturism gave me self-confidence’

Three years ago, I went on a naturist holiday in the company of two friends, neither being naturist. Over the course of the week both did ‘take the plunge’ into naturism. 🙂

Essentially their thinking was that, when exposed to the lifestyle, it all seemed so natural and ordinary that they joined in. Nancy hasn’t maintained a naturist lifestyle, although she says she’d happily go with me again and join in again from day 1, now she knows what to expect. My other friend, who was cast as ‘BB’ for the posts from that holiday did, however, keep up her naturism afterwards.

At the dinner I attended on New Year’s Eve, BB was there (I knew she’d be there) and I took the opportunity to catch up with her about all things naturist in her life.

BB was, and is, a larger sized lady. Not ‘fat’, just one of those ladies who is big in the shoulders and boobs, but who still looks attractive. But shy, because of her size.

For BB, that naturist holiday with Nancy and I was ‘a blinding flash of light, like my life suddenly made sense’.

Naturism, and not being judged on her size, suddenly instilled a new found body confidence in her. And that’s true for everyone, regardless of size. Not being judged on size, age, shape, how pert your buttocks or how saggy your breasts are is indeed an eye opener. Once home, BB decided she’d quite like to join a naturist swim because ‘there’s just a glorious feeling swimming without a costume’, and asked me if I’d accompany her the first time. So we drove (quite a distance, I should add, from where we live) to a naturist swim, met some lovely people and had a great afternoon. My life circumstances are, however, a bit different to BB’s, so I couldn’t commit to being a regular attender (as much as I’d love to). BB, on the other hand, had no family commitments so makes the longish drive almost every week to have her naturist ‘fix’.

I’m happy to report that, through that weekly naturist swim, she has developed (she says) a much more open outlook on life, and through that swim she’s met a guy who lives kind of half way between where we are and where the swim’s held. Because of this, they began car-sharing and then dating.

‘It’s a bit weird when a guy asks you out and you’ve already seen each other naked’, she laughed. ‘We’d been going weekly and chatting naked in the pool with one another for months before we agreed on the car-share, and that drive was the first I’d ever seen him clothed!’

In just a few weeks time, the two of them are off on their first naturist holiday together, staying at the Charco de Palo resort in Lanzarote, part of the Canary Islands (if unfamiliar with the Canary Islands, they’re off the coast of Africa, belong to Spain, and provide many Europeans with ‘winter sun’. It’ll be in the mid 20s, at least, temperature wise even at this time of year).

(above, a gallery of images from Charco de Palo)

Naturism, you see, can be life-changing in so many ways.

BB has promised to file a report on her holiday (mid-February) for us at SL Naturist.

Ella

(note: I set Nancy and BB up with SL accounts when we were on that holiday. Neither has maintained an SL presence, but I was able to resurrect BBs account for the purpose of illustrating this post and maintaining some sort of continuity with her image from the previous holiday)

Heroes of naturism : Paula Brindisi

Paula Brindisi.

Argentinian activist in defence of public nudity. She’s been doing this a long time now, from young woman to motherhood and beyond.

She’s on Twitter. She’s on Facebook.  

She’s director of a project called Urban Nudismo.who have their own FB page.

On Vimeo. On youtube. 

She also turns up on Flickr under her own name and as Avril X (not sure what the significance of this is)

And other social media. Wow! Here’s a woman who had dedicated a large part of her life to normalising nudity in Argentina. Of making it normal and acceptable.

A personal crusade, and we salute her for it!

Ella