Not bare down there!

Last week I asked the question as to whether I should go ‘bare down there’ on my forthcoming naturist holiday. Oddly enough, Cosmopolitan have just published a survey on men’s attitudes towards pubic hair. (via the AskMen website).

The thing is…why ask men? It’s our bodies, and we should be free to do with them as we please, not what men want us to do.

My poll has (phew!) just closed and it’s a tie…13 votes to 13.



If you’ll pardon the pun, that was a close shave! As we have a tie, we maintain the status quo. This, I offer by way of decision making, is based on long-established British law for maintenance of the status quo in the event of a tied vote. 😉

By the way, remind me not to make stupid offers to Mr.Keng and the readership after a couple of glasses of wine ever again!

I was out this morning at the hairdressers, getting my hair cut before the holiday. While my hair hangs to shoulder length, I often tie it up when on holiday. A beach can be breezy, and wrapping a bandana around it certainly keeps it from flapping around in my face. Either that, or I ponytail it.

When I got home, and decided to reflect this reality, and so I went hair shopping in SL and was thrilled to find two styles in Truth Hair’s Discount room, only L$50 each, that would replicate this holiday styling as far as bandanas are concerned.

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New hairstyles modelled at the ice-cream stand at Su Casa Naturist


I think I prefer the style in the bottom pic, so I’ll go with that in suitable photo-ops when I’m on holiday. I’m still looking for a suitable ponytail style.

And, I’m glad to say, won’t be attacking myself with a razor tonight 🙂

Pookes had claimed ‘she’d save me’ in the comments section of the related post and, indeed, it appears that it’s only her vote and mine that saw the poll tied.

It’s interesting that the Cosmo/AskMen polls kind of reflect a similar sort of divided opinion. Their polls offered more choices for answers on attitudes to female pubic hair, so there’s more variables, but as far as the ‘take it off’ and ‘keep it’ options were concerned, there was very much near-parity in men’s attitudes to it.





‘Where the hell is SLN12?’

‘Where the hell is SLN12?’, asks a reader via IM, coming straight to the point.

I’m glad you asked me that. Who am I kidding? I’ve been terrified of someone asking that for weeks!

SLN, ‘the magazine’, has had a couple of set-backs in its history. First, there was ‘the Politics issue’, which had two false starts before being abandoned. SL is largely politics free, and the more we attempted to examine politics, particularly naturist politics, around the globe the further we got away from achieving what we wanted to express.priyanka1_001b

SLN12 is intended to be an International edition, effectively examining attitudes to nudity and sexuality in different corners of the globe (and different attitudes from different corners of the grid -the attitudes to virtual sexuality will differ between, for example, a Gorean sim and a dance club, even if ‘bumping pixels’ -cybersex- is the common end result.priyanka2_001b

While much of it is written, done and dusted, all photographs taken, we’ve got bogged down with one particular element of it: India.priyanka3_001b

It’s easy to write about certain parts of the world and their attitudes. Others…it’s like catching the wind in the palm of your hand to get anything definitive down. And India is the sticking point, more than any other section of the intended finished SLN12, simply because there is no definitive Indian sexuality. The same may be true of other parts of the world too, but there’s a national/regional/religious stereotype in play that largely holds true and can be presented as a kind of definitive version of that region’s attitudes. For example, in respect of the Islamic world, we can say that public nudity is a definite no-no. It’s easy to write that bit in. We can say that Spain and France have a laissez-faire attitude to topless sunbathing. We can write that bit in, too.priyanka4_001b

But India…India is causing me all sorts of bother, largely because I’m UK based, and the diaspora who’ve settled here are, in many ways, westernised in attitude and have adopted a western attitude to sexuality and public nudity whereas people in India have a different attitude, there’s further diversification in attitude between urban and rural India, and there’s some cross-fertilisation between arranged marriage between western-raised partners in a marriage and Indian born and raised partners. And getting a handle on that is tough.priyanka5_001b

We’ve spoken to numerous Indian people, some running ‘Indian’ avatars in SL, some running western looking avatars, to try and make some sense of it all, but it’s proving to be exceptionally difficult. I’ve wrestled with just one paragraph for a couple of hours today, for example.priyanka7_001b

So I’ll ask you to be patient. Because I’m determined not to abandon another full issue of the mag.

The accompanying photos show avatar Priyanka -a UK born girl of Indian descent and who lives her SL as an Indian avatar- demonstrate the paradox between the two worlds. (All photos taken by Diane Toxx) On one hand there’s the acceptance of the traditional -her sari- and the western, a relaxed attitude to posing her avatar nude for us here, and an acknowledgement that her attitudes to sex and sexuality are very much the result of a UK upbringing. An interview with Priyanka will appear in SLN 12 if and when I get it finished. So I’d ask you to be patient. I’d like to get it right when it eventually hits the blog.