Is it weird?

‘Hey Ella’, an avatar IMs, ‘I love reading SLN’. Thanks, I love the fact that you love reading it.

‘I couldn’t help notice that you’re in Vera Playa this week. I’ve stayed there too and love the lifestyle but there’s one thing I find odd. And that’s at the weekend, when many Spanish people drive down to the beach for the afternoon and the it can be 2-3 males and a female, or the other way round. It makes me think a couple are involved and there’s maybe a couple of male friends who are getting to see your girlfriend naked, or the other way around. I’d be weirded out to think that my brother or best friend was seeing my girl ‘.

Hmmm…I don’t think it’s weird. First and foremost, you’re maybe sexualising a naturist situation thinking like that. You need to see it in a fuller naturist context. Remember: in situations where there’s naturist facilities, you grow up with that culture. You’ve maybe been visiting the beach from the age of 7 or 17 and public nudity has been a normal part of your life. And as such the naked body doesn’t hold the sexual focus it would have for someone growing up in a textile environment.

That’s not to say that you won’t become aroused in a sexual situation, you will, but naturism doesn’t equate to sex.

The chances are that you’ve visited the beach with your friends, a peer group, and have been nude on the beach for quite a long time. You may have grown up in a naturist family environment and seen your siblings naked for as long as you recall. And it’s all so normal and dull.

You don’t say whether you visited Vera with a girlfriend or wife, or if you socialised with anyone. But I imagine, in both instances, you did.

So…how did you feel about others looking at your girl/wife? I would think that you probably weren’t overly concerned or giving it any thought. So what difference do you think might exist where, if you’re local, you go to the beach with your brother and your girlfriend? Or your wife and your best friend?

No one will be looking at another person in a sense of sexual desire any more or less than they would on a textile beach. Simply because people are fully nude will not make one jot of difference to ‘sexual chemistry’.

I would imagine there will be those visit textile beaches this afternoon across the globe who are ‘ogling’ their brother or friend’s girl in her bikini, trying to imagine what lies underneath. Human nature being what it is, that is maybe the case in naturism too. But I’d be fairly confident that in 99% of naturist contexts, the parties involved don’t care and don’t notice.

trioShe has come to the naturist beach with her boyfriend and his brother. Does the naturism add or subtract from potential sexual attraction? No.

Is the man on the left concerned that his brother and his best friend are seeing his wife nude?

In conclusion, I would say that no, it’s not ‘weird’ that a gender imbalance exists for groups of people choosing to visit the naturist beach, and not made ‘weird’ by familial or social links.


Look of the day…look of the week.

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Here I am at Su Casa, one of SLN’s office bases in SL. I’ve wandered away from our office at the lighthouse, and along the beach, to replicate my morning stroll/swim here in Spain.

I pretty much have a well-established routine regarding this. At this time of year 900am is when the sun’s up and warming up, so I’ll pop on a tank top -for reasons that will become clear momentarily.

When I get to the beach I can either take the tank top off and my flip flops and pop them down on the sand knowing it’ll be there when I come back for them 30-40 minutes later. I’m now only in the possession of the key I need to get back into the apartment, and that’s hung on a chain around my neck.

And so I’ll set off on my walk, covering the full length of Vera Playa’s naturist beach. Of course, if there’s any cloud around I tend to keep my tank top on, because if the sun slips behind a cloud early in the morning it can still feel a little chilly.

Once back to my clothes, or what there are of them, I then take my morning sea swim. Not so much a swim as a ‘float on my back’ session. The beach can be beautifully quiet at this time of the day. The odd dog walker, perhaps a couple or two, and then numerous people on their own, like me, who are utilising the beach for part of their daily fitness regime. Some walk, some jog. Me? I walk 🙂

Once out of the water, any breeze will make one shiver, and that’s why I use the tank top. It’s something I can pop on for a moment or two until I do begin to warm through. That process only takes a couple of minutes.

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It’s a magical time of the day.

What’s more, this tank top & bottomless look appears to be in vogue with women right now. And I stand by what I said about pubic hair earlier in the week. It’s slowly but surely coming back into vogue too! I spotted two women today who’d adopted that look, and some others earlier in the week as well.

Another part of my morning routine has also been to have morning coffee at the closest beach bar to me here. With sunshades erected, it doesn’t feel oppressively hot on my pale-ish skin, and it’s a delight to sit there watching people setting up on the beach for the day, and indulging in a favourite Vera Playa pastime, promenading the length of the beach, just as I’ve done at a more suitable, cooler time of day.







Might a battle be brewing?

I recently read a group message from one of the sim owners/staff which was gently reminding group members that, on a nude beach, nude meant nude. Sadly, it seemed that more and more visitors to the sim were keeping their swimwear firmly on.croatia.lokrum-island-nudist-beach

A sign in Croatia spells it out clearly. No swimming costumes, no cameras.

I have to say that, since that group message was posted, I’ve noticed exactly the same thing recently at one or two places. I’m not going to get drawn into naming where I’ve noticed this growing desire to remain clothed, but just let me say that I’ve found it increasingly frustrating.

$(KGrHqV,!oMFEL(8s!!WBRrPOSZ4z!~~60_35When Sweden Naturist was open, Evacaroline was quite militant about the wearing of clothes. If online, she would, without a moment’s hesitation, eject swimwear using avatars from Sweden. In real life, the beach at Arnaoutchot (France) is equally firmly guarded, with visitors expected to strip off at entrances to the beach manned by ‘guards’, so as to best to protect the naked purity of the beach. Otherwise, more and more ‘textile’ visitors would come and in time erode the very notion of it being naturist. To maintain its reputation as a naturist beach, it is thus firmly guarded to remain fully naturist.

I’m also of the opinion that in some locations, notably in the United States, the use of the term ‘nude beach’ is sometimes applied to what we in Europe would call a ‘topless’ or CO -clothing optional- beach. So not really nude, boys and girls. Right?tumblr_lr5wht8lus1qjo1zxo1_500

I understand that we, the naturist community, have some beautiful, stunning facilities at our disposal in SL and that you, the non-naturist might want to visit and avail of the lovely facilities at our disposal. I understand that we, the naturist community, have a reputation for being a friendly, outgoing, tolerant bunch who make friends easily and that you might make some good friends in naturist sims. I understand we, the SL naturist community, have a very few beaches for our chosen lifestyle in the context of hundreds, perhaps thousands, of ‘textile’ beaches (i.e. swimsuits are worn). These are all traits that mirror RL. Out there in the real world there are a very few naturist beaches in the context of the sandy stretches around the world as a whole. Out there, we -naturists- maintain a reputation as a friendly bunch.600_126706172

So please, I implore you, if you’re going to visit our beaches, please play by our rules and leave the bikinis and speedoes in your inventory. Otherwise, to protect the purity of the beaches we enjoy as a community, you may find that sim owners and staff may just begin to be a little more militant, as Evacaroline was, in ejecting those who remain clothed. And if you think that’s an over-reaction, ask yourself if you would want us -naturists- turning up, genitals displayed, in PG sims.9564109-vector-naturism-sign-means-nude-people-only-no-textile


Naturist Tropes (No.1)

A trope, in literature, is a ‘recurring theme’.

And I was thinking that there are also ‘naturist tropes’, recurring themes, scenes, events, occurrences that I see each time I’m off on holiday.

With that in mind, I’ve decided to run an occasional series in which we explore these themes, the things that simply happen despite a revolving number of holiday makers, some experiencing naturism for the first time. Explanation over, let’s dive straight in…

No.1 The first-time nervous naturist

An affliction that both sexes encounter, for different reasons. For the female, she had perhaps been a topless sunbather for some time, and already encountered all of the fears and insecurities regarding the baring of her boobs. Are they too big? Too small? Too saggy? Is one bigger than the other? Are my nipples too pink? Too brown? Are the areola too large? Too small?

Maybe she’s over that. In my experience most European females will have indulged in some form of toplessness by the time they’re 20, certainly. Maybe they’ve been doing it all their lives. Only occasionally will you see the shy girl for whom it remains a big deal. And generally she’ll get over it with, with gentle encouragement from her friends, boyfriends or whoever. And in some case the insecurity of teenage is all-consuming. Often you’ll see ‘Mum’, happily topless or even fully nude, while teenage daughter wrestles with the insecurities of teenage and the straps on her bikini bra. More amusingly, you occasionally see a naked and unconcerned ‘Gran’ swimming or sunbathing naked while her teenage grand-daughter is filled with self-doubt. Shouldn’t it be the other way around?

But she still has to confront the bigger obstacle, losing her bikini briefs. Often, women of all ages will happily go topless and never go fully nude. And in a naturist setting, you’ll see those first-timers for whom this is the crossing of the Styx. Yep. It’s the bridge between ‘the earth’ as she’s previously known it, and ‘the underworld’ (certainly the ‘unknown’) of total, public nudity.

And so for the first couple of days she may remain wedged into her bikini briefs. Not just nervous teenagers, but nervous women of all ages.

And some will nervously strip off to sunbathe face down and, when rolling over, pull themselves into a sitting position so best to hide their exposed genitals. Some will sunbathe nude, and pull on bikini briefs to walk to the sea for a swim, then take them off again when they return to their towel. And, regularly, I see women walk, in the briefs, to the water’s edge, only to return, nude, with said briefs in their hand! Why? I’m not sure. I guess that there are times when the power of the waves are pulling their briefs this way and that, and suddenly it makes sense to go without. And at other times it may be that they slip them off in the water, realise what an enjoyable feeling naked swimming is, and decide enough’s enough; they’re going to go fully nude.


A familiar scene at a naturist beach. A woman enters the sea in her bikini briefs, and removes them on exiting the water.

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Mercedes models Muschi’s L$1 tanlines (as a tattoo layer)

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Mercedes models Muschi’s ‘front only’ towel. With use of the correct pose, it could be made to look as if it was being held in place.

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Mercedes wearing the ‘front only’ towel from Muschi, a rear view.

I specifically asked Mercedes to provide a rear view of the ‘front only’ towel because, keeping the ‘nervious first timer’ theme in mind, I once witnessed a young Mum going through that very nervous, quite evidently nude debut moment herself. With a towel clasped in place over her front, she was filming her husband and two young children in a pool at a naturist place we were holidaying at, and clutching firmly at it with her elbows down to hold it there as she filmed. She seemed unconcered at her rear being bare in public. As she continued to film, and clearly feeling herself enjoying the experience, suddenly the towel dropped away and she was naked in public for the first time. Her husband, still in the pool with the children, glanced over and gave her the greatest grin of approval I’ve ever seen. And with that, her nervousness, self-doubts and feelings of insecurity were gone. I didn’t see her holding the towel for the rest of the holiday.

For males, well, they’ve been exposing their nipples their entire lives! So ‘topless’ has never been an issue. But what about that moment when they drop their shorts for the first time? My view is that males can and do embrace public nudity a little more readily than females. Why? I don’t really know, other than maybe they’re more used to it, in sports changing rooms and thus the concept isn’t wholly alien, even if in a single sex environment.

But you can still observe the nervous male, his nervousness almost solely coming from his worry that he doesn’t ‘match up’ to the other men. Is his penis small? Average? Large? I’d say that those guys who are quietly confident about being ‘above average’ will often confidently strip off because they’re proud of their equipment and want everyone to share a sense of how well-endowed they are. And yes, this would be the case in genuine naturist environments as well. The less well-endowed maintain a sense of nervousness in case they don’t measure up to expectations. The odd thing is that female naturists aren’t desperately focused on male genitalia. Someone who keeps in shape and who is well-toned, regardless of penis size, will tick more boxes for women.

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A couple of my male friends, Howie and Rick, both confess to modelling their avis on their real selves, right down to ‘equipment size’. (Both are European, and Howie is circumcised while Rick is, more typically for Europe, not). Both are also committed RL naturists. So I asked each of them about their experiences of their public debut as naturists, and in particular how they felt about their ‘equipment’.

‘I’d no sense of shame about size’, confesses Howie. ‘I was maybe a little more embarrased by looking different in being circumcised, until I realised that some naturists are circumcised, but in Europe most are not. While in a minority, I did see other guys who were also circumcised, so I don’t feel like I was totally isolated in that regard. To be honest, when I made my public nudity debut, I had booked it because I’d been unwell for a period of time, was confined to the house, wasn’t working following surgery and just sat around getting fat, hahah! We booked a sunny holiday just for the experience of lying in the sun for a fortnight, and I was probably more ashamed that I was out of condition, carrying a bit of a belly and all that. I wasn’t bothered about size, even though I’m maybe average or below average in that regard.’

And what of Rick, who acknowledges that, by contrast he’s maybe ‘above average’ in that regard (although how we quantify ‘average’ is anyone’s guess)? ‘I just stripped off. That was it. Wasn’t remotely embarrassed. I don’t, incidentally, look at other males and think ‘oh, I’m so much better than him’. I think we all carry other insecurities anyway. I hate the shape of my ears, I have a bump in my nose as a result of having it broken when I was a kid, my teeth aren’t perfect. So if I was measuring myself against other guys, the size of my penis wouldn’t be the thing I’d fixate on, or thinking ‘Your girl would be better off with me’. I’d be looking at guys in the sense of ‘he’s better looking than me, I can see why his girlfriend is just gorgeous’. Something like that. No, I don’t get hung up on it. Anyway, I think in genuine naturism the over-riding factor is always ‘how interesting are they?’, male or female. I’ve met stunning girls who don’t have two brain cells to rub together, met Mumsy types who have simply magnetic personalities. Maybe she’s a bit overweight, not stunningly beautiful, but I know I’d prefer to spend time with her than the one who looks like the supermodel, because the Mumsy, frumpier woman has sparkling conversational skills and a winning personality. In a naturist setting I’m still not focusing on their boobs or whatever. I want a sharp intellect and a sense of humour. Looks aren’t part of the deal.’

Both guys, then, suggest didn’t feel any sense of nervousness in their public, nude debut, at least regarding penis size. Which, let’s face it, is the core issue in going publicly nude for men and women alike, exposure of the genital area.

I haven’t, yet, commented on the awkward female who also goes through a ridiculous number of stages on the way to full nudity. I know. I was that female! Face down, bikini strap undone. Still face down, bikini done up again, a movement that I suggest defies all sense of human movement. Then the strap undone, hands holding the bra cups in place and the shoulder straps hanginf free. And now the entire back gets some sun! Then the half-way house of bikini top finally off, but a ‘hand bra‘ liberally used to keep those boobs covered. But maybe there’s a second or two when a boob does say ‘hello’ to the general public. Accidentally, often. Deliberately, as a sense of daring rises, occasionally. Then the moment when they finally make their first public appearance. A lot of looking down. A lot of nervous looking around. A lot of towel use from time to time to re-cover them. And then a period of sitting at a sun lounger, boobs bared. Then, finally, the confidence to walk to the water’s edge, play some beach tennis or volleyball fully, properly topless.

And we haven’t even got to the point yet where our intrepid female is going to tackle the bikini briefs. Maybe we’ll leave that for another day. After all, that’s the timescale often involved in losing the wretched, wet, clingy things. 🙂

Credits: Towel & panties down clothing (between L$90 & L$110), and tanlines (L$1) at Muschi. (also on the marketplace).


Naked Driving

Going in search of ‘naturist news’ from RL, something we can replicate in SL, I was talking to SLN publisher Howie at a party he held at his house over the weekend, something that’s becoming an annual ‘felling of the tree’ event when the Christmas tree comes down. Drinkies, cheese and other stuff on sticks, you probably are familiar with the procedure.

And prior to attending, I’d been reading about how 10% of the (US?) population would drive naked if they couldn’t be seen. Howie laughed when I brought it up in conversation. ‘I’ve done that’, he said.

On holiday in a naturist destination, he says he regularly drives naked from his apartment to a nearby naturist beach bar that sells English language newspapers, and then returns home. ‘It’s not a long drive’, he shrugged, ‘but it’s a more comfortable option in the heat of the day. The layout of the place means I could walk it, nude, but that saps your energy in mid-morning, when the English papers arrive.’

Barbara, who was at the party briefly, but about to tp away to do some SL shopping, decided to come with us and sit in the passenger’s seat.

‘Hmm’ said Howie, I normally don’t get a hire car as flash as a Mini Cooper Coupe. It’s generally a Fiat 500. A funky little car in itself, but not a Mini Cooper.’

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Barbara was so taken by the experience she says she wants to buy one. ‘We need a naturist sim with a road system’, she laughed. ‘I really want to zoom around naked in one of these too!’.



Something you see, regularly, at the naturist beach are tanlines.

There’s a couple of possibilities here. One, if you’re like me, full naturism and even sunshine isn’t always a possibility at home. I’ll try to grab as much as possible before holidays, but circumstances…friends dropping in, my children’s friends being in our garden, whatever, mean I can’t always go nude.

And so sometimes I’ll end up going away on holiday with tanlines.

The second possibility -I see this all the time- is that people don’t always begin a holiday with naturist intent. Sometimes they chance upon a naturist beach. Sometimes they’re merrily sunning away in a bikini for days before they reach that ‘ah, to hell with it!’ moment and maybe (you see this with young women, late teens, perhaps) they shed their bikini top. And the bikini briefs remain in place for a couple more days or, in textile locations, are never lost at all. (Topless sunbathing and swimming are widely accepted in textile beaches or hotel pools). Thus, there’s an uneven tan in place for the remainder of the holiday.

The SL Marketplace has numerous tanlines available. I bought one a set this evening and am wearing the tattoo layer for both top and bottom.

Incidentally, less obvious but occasionally visible are tan lines where the woman in question hasn’t even started her holiday with a bikini confident body, and has a one-piece swimsuit in place. But naturism draws you in and once you realise there are people older, saggier and more overweight than you, and still wholly confident in their naked bodies, these people also shed their inhibitions and their swimwear to sometimes go fully nude. I haven’t checked if there’s a one piece swimsuit tan line available on the marketplace, but I’ll maybe to that now and get back to you on that one.

In the meantime, here’s a trio of photos with tanlines clearly visible. A naturist accessory, most certainly.tanlines1_001b tanlines2_001b tanlines3_001b
And with that post, I’m signing off for a few days. We’ve had a hectic period with SLN, in the days leading up to and over Christmas. I’m not entirely sure what the others have planned (if anything) but I’m going to enjoy the rest of my week off, and I’ll catch you sometime next week.


Boho Fair 2013

Barbara’s mention of Bewbstock (see previous post) reminded me that there’s a couple of expos/fairs on at the moment that have ‘naturist accessory’ potential. Another one is the Boho Fair -more ‘hippy chic’, as Barbara phrased it, fashion.

And don’t forget that Burning Man is also ongoing at the moment. (edited to add…it opens today, October 19th, but it may be later in your RL day before you can gain access).

Anyway, I hopped over to the Boho Fair and picked up a whole bunch of goodies. I could have spent more. In fact, I’ll probably go back and spend more! 🙂

All you see here came to a grand total of L$25! And that includes the L$20 I spent on a fat pack of bohemian/hippy/beach clothes that certainly remind me of the various states of undress visible on a typical naturist beach, or of ladies getting dressed up for the evening following a day’s nude sunbathing.

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Yep. Everything you see, the cowgirl boots, the two different hairstyles, and all of the clothes (plus more I didn’t photograph!) for L$25. Imagine! A whole new look, a whole new you, a whole new wardrobe. A whole new hippy/beach naturist look. I’ll certainly be wearing the gypsy skirt (last pic) when I visit the Burning Man festival for you.