Earlier in the week I spoke about how the removal of (mainly) female pubic hair represented something of a pornification of the female parts, the porn-industry instigating it (in more recent times) for ‘more detail’.

But it isn’t just the female of the species who have had their parts ‘pornified’ in recent decades.

Look at many vintage naturist photos of males and you will quickly see that their penises often appear to be somewhat ‘smaller’ than in more up to date photos.

But let’s hold on here a moment. These aren’t ‘smaller’ penises. They’re real, averagely sized penises. Captured in their real, averagely sized flaccid states.

Many photos of nude males, today, are much more focused on a larger sized penis, thus skewing the perception of what is real, what is average. There’s also a need for penises to now also be photographed erect, with a need to work in an ‘oh my god!’ factor. A separate issue for another day perhaps.

Picture, if you will (I’m not about to add examples in SLN!) a photo series of a woman performing oral sex on a man. Often, the impression created is that she can barely get her hand around it, and there are likely to be stretch marks around her mouth! That’s not to say there are some men out there, not involved in the porn industry, who are ‘ample’ in their penile proportions, but they’re the exception rather than the rule.

I know men fret a lot about penis size. Not only in terms of how being huge is what the ladies want (trust me guys, it isn’t) but also as to how they measure up in the changing rooms after sports. They don’t want to have a ‘small’ penis when in the showers, do they?

This fixation on size carries on into Second Life, too. Females appear fixated on having huge boobs (there’s a mini-industry going on there in relation to mega-boobs), males on having huge penises, ridiculously unrealistically proportioned. Now, unless some SL avatars are doing ‘irony’ in a big way, it means that there’s a lot of male avatars out there who aren’t grasping proportion. Or else they imagine that female avatars are going to be looking at and being impressed by size.

On the contrary. While hardly ‘scientific’ the female staffers at SLN would, to a girl, merely laugh at these outsized appendages and dismiss the owner as some sort of clown, unlikely to be featured in SLN, and unlikely to be friended because of their clear fixations on what is or isn’t important to the rest of us.

I’m not going to zoom around the sims in order to name and shame examples of these ludicrously proportioned idiots. So let me roll out my ‘Adam’ alt for a moment to show what I mean.

‘Adam’ wears a Lotus Silver edition cock, and in the photos below I’ve chosen for him to wear the ‘modest’ size, which is more or less ‘average’ in my eyes.

And now the ‘proud’ size in the same Lotus Silver cock.

All quite normal. Yes?

Lotus have a clear sense of ‘keeping it real’. Other cock manufacturers allow greater flexibility with size, so for this I’ve had to ask one of my friends to model accordingly.

To me, the top photo one where the model is ‘small’, it looks real, properly proportioned. The middle photo, perhaps of a size that isn’t altogether out of the question in real life, would be one modelled by many SL males, and not commonly realistic. The bottom one…well…again, many SL avatars would sport this monstrosity as if it is normal. (Note: I once had a conversation with a guy at a nudist sim who, unsolicited, began to tell me about his ‘bit below average’ penis, ‘nine inches or so’ :-O I tp’ed away and muted that one very quickly, I can tell you!)

I’ve just been down for coffee at a beach bar here in Spain, a glorious naturist beach laid out in front of me. Now, I’m seasoned enough at this that I no longer consciously see naked people, just people. And I’m not staring at their genitals, boobs, excess weight or anything else to particularly notice how proportioned the male of the species is. But with this post in mind, I made a conscious effort to ‘measure they guys up’ 🙂 And it merely confirmed what I already know, the ‘modest’ penis, the ‘small’ penis is actually the average penis. There are very few guys out there with anything particularly huge.

So, fellas, bear this in mind in SL when proportioning yourselves, because RL is also reflected, in many ways, in SL. At a nudist SL sim, you don’t really notice an avatar’s cock (or boobs) unless they’re of silly proportions. Ditto real life. Naked people fail to look naked after a while. They’re average, all average. And you, and I, are too. And this is a good way to think. It means we’ve got no ‘textile’ styled body conscious hang-ups about our beings any more. We’ve arrived at a point where we acknowledge and accept our (media defined) ‘imperfections’ and can readily and easily accept our nude selves as we are.

If you are thinking about becoming a real life naturist, fellas, please put all thoughts of ‘but I’m not very well hung’ out of your mind. No one is looking, no one is laughing. Penises do come in all sorts of sizes, but be satisfied that yours, regardless of how you measure it, is going to be average out there.

Naturist women aren’t lining up to judge, point, stare or even notice.

Don’t be getting hung up on size. And that advice works just as well for SL avatars as it does for real life.

Ella

Naturism gives people a greater sense of body acceptance and body confidence. I’ve seen amply proportioned men and women who couldn’t care less. The tyranny of the media’s ‘body beautiful’ fixation (and almost fascism) is lost on them. They are comfortable in their own skins. And that is a truly beautiful thing.