Sexually active too early?

A couple of UK news source have reported today that there has been some research into people losing their virginity. 

I, for one, don’t see these reports as terribly surprising.

I’m an older generation, and certainly didn’t lose it at the age of 13-14 as the reports indicate many are doing now, which is far, far too young. I was a few days shy of my 18th birthday before I lost mine, and in hindsight maybe that was too early for me (even though I was a late starter in my peer group).

But I’m guessing that the percentages haven’t varied wildly between my generation and today’s generation. Sex is this great unknown we all want to know, and has been since time began.

Some countries have a more adult attitude to sex than the UK (and US) do. As a result of them being more open there’s less mystique about sex and less pressure to participate as soon as possible.

A Guardian article from last year reports on the pressure being heaped on a 20 year old woman to lose hers, and I don’t suppose her story is untypical amongst post-teen virgins, male or female.

As with all of these research papers, there’s always an entirely opposite view, though, and last year it was being reported teenagers are having less sex. I have too say, though, that ‘having less sex’ isn’t the same thing as losing your virginity. It’s entirely possible a teenager could lose their virginity at 13 (far too young, and illegal) and decide the time was wrong, then avoid further sex until they’re out of their teens, in which case both bits of research stand up.

What has this got to do with naturism?

There are reams of research that point to children being exposed to parental nudity, or nudity in general (i.e. a naturist environment) are better adjusted and more confident about their own bodies, that it removes a lot of the curiosity about the anatomy of the opposite gender that is such a magnet in sexual situations to non-naturist (or those never exposed to casual, non-sexual nudity) situations.

I researched this a bit and there seems to be a train of thought that suggests that being naked with them is OK, but there comes an age when it’s not OK. Websites like Mumsnet asks the question when it’s time to stop and devote entire threads of discussion to the topic.

You will understand why I’ve chosen not to illustrate this post as I have done with others.

From my perspective I think there probably is some direct link to a more enhanced self-awareness of body, and that of the opposite gender, if raised in a naturist or casual nudity home environment, making for more rounded, less curious and, in many cases, probably less sexually active teenagers at a young age.





I’ve been reading a story about a university student who has begun a thing called JanuHairy in an effort to get women to be more confident about their body hair.

It has an Instagram page, a Facebook presence, as well as being reported on in newspapers and news outlets.

Of course it has got to the stage where body hair, on women, is practically regarded as a fetish, such is its absence on many. One bit of research reveals about half of all UK women under 35 are now removing all pubic hair, and we must have got to the stage now where almost every woman living in western society is removing underarm hair.

Worse, I think, is that women are conforming to their partners’ requests in this regard. I’m all for some compromise in a relationship, but in an era of feminism I found it rather shocking that men sort of demand how women groom.

And 1/3rd of men would reconsider the relationship based on their partner’s pubic hair preferences! :-O Unbelievable!

An exceptionally good article exists on the Guardian website about how porn has driven the need for women to be entirely hairless, and our archives suggest Ella wasn’t a fan of the hairless look or conforming to porn industry expectations.

That same Guardian article links to another in which it’s claimed that pubic hair is making a comeback in porn, and it will be interesting to see how this ‘trend’ (if it is one) develops. I’ve no real strong opinions on pubic hair, having been natural, trimmed and fully bare in my time, but I have been someone who has shaved their legs/armpits since puberty (which wasn’t yesterday) and I suppose I might be seen as buying into the idea of conforming to society’s beauty ideals in that regard.

It is possible to buy pubic, underarm and leg hair for female (and male) avatars in Second Life.

I’m not sure I’ll be joining in with JanuHairy, but I wish those participating well, and perhaps the realisation (particularly amongst men) that we ladies are free to do what we want with our bodies, and it isn’t for them, the porn industry or fashion to dictate to us what we do and don’t do.


Going wild! (Part 1)

In our youth, we do things we regret in later life, or maybe deny ever having been involved in. Or maybe just recall with a smile when we’ve settled into a conventional adult, married life routine, little bits of us we never reveal to our nearest and dearest.

Of course, many of these tales involve alcohol. Or drugs. Many involve sex. And many involve nudity.

There’s a cocktail called a ‘skinny dipper’.

And a beer.

So there’s a clear link in the minds of non-naturists that one (often) follows the other.

Sometimes it does and sometimes it’s one of those things that people increasingly want to try, and there are numerous money-raising skinny dipping events around the globe now where people can raise cash for a charity while simultaneously wanting to tick another thing off their bucket list. It’s one of those things we feel compelled, at some point in our lives, to experience.

The world is full of hundreds of thousands of people who will never identify as naturist but who readily identify as people who have skinny dipped and liked the experience.

With this in mind, I asked some real and Second Life friends about their real life skinny dipping experiences. Remember that not every ‘naturist’ avatar in Second Life is a real life naturist! It’s often, in Second Life, something they do virtually because they lack the nerve or opportunity to do so in real life. Which is fine. If you live 1000 miles from an ocean, in a small-town, conservative location skinny dipping or any other form of social nudity is nigh impossible. So the appeal of Second Life naturism, to ask questions of like-minded individuals, or to just hang out with like minded souls, is clear.


I’ve titled this post ‘Going Wild’ because skinny dipping often takes place in ‘wild’ water, that is a body of water off the beaten track and now ‘a sport’ in itself. Checking back through the archives I notice that Wild Swimming has featured several times before.

Included in the gallery above is a number of historic photographs from the 1970s I would guess. I’ve included these as they’re exactly the sort of photographs that link to my notion of people doing impetuous things in youth that they might later regret. In the 1970s communal nudity would not have been as visible as it is now. Ladies, in particular, didn’t do this sort of thing. If we date the photos in question to 1975 and guess that the ladies are 20 at the time, that places them in their 60s now. I know from personal experience 😉 that growing older doesn’t mean acting more sensibly, not by any stretch of the imagination, but when I look at photos like these I often wonder if the people involved subsequently got married, had children and grandchildren, and if they have told their partners, children or grandchildren about the wild times when they went skinny dipping. Or if they still do go skinny dipping. Or if it was something of youth, now long left behind.

I shall pick this post up in ‘Part 2’ and feature a few testimonials of those who have skinny dipped and either consigned it to memory, never to be repeated to significant others, or are still doing it where opportunity strikes.


SL’s Art of the Nude

There are a lot of supremely talented people operating in SL. Obviously there’s the clothes designers and sim builders, who have great talent in their areas of expertise. But there’s also other creative types, those who perform live from home to provide entertainment to an exclusively SL audience.

And a look on Flickr shows there are more for whom digital photography, in an SL context, is their thing. Sometimes, they’re also creating art in the real world and offering SL variations on it.

At Su Casa Naturist sim there’s a gallery on the beach featuring the real life and Second Life work of various users/members there. This work below by ‘Susan’ is called ‘Coming Storm’ and it’s available to buy…for L$0! So I’ve got a copy of it as I think it speaks volumes for the talent involved. RL photographers would give a lot to be able to replicate such an image! And, of course it also demonstrates naturism in nature, always a winning theme.

From there I hopped over to LeMelon Rouge’s Soho gallery. Another exceptionally talented artist whose work features nudes a lot.

I’m standing in front of one called ‘Alone 3’, and again the vivacity of naked life just spills out of the art.

Incidentally, I am standing in front of the photos in order to ‘spoil’ them. I’ve noted that this blog’s policy is one of not intentionally infringing anyone’s copyright, hence me there to break the photos of the original art up a bit. Of course, if any of the artists have an issue with us using their artwork we will take the photos down immediately.

LeMelon has his own (real life) website that you can find here, and another web presence here. He’s also on Facebook.

This brought me to Yoko Ireto’s gallery. I haven’t included any of her stunning SL photography for the reason that the photos are hung at a height that makes it difficult to photograph with me in them and, as explained above, ‘break up’ the copyrighted works.

Which brings me to the genesis of this post – SL avatar Stacia Reneoir, whose Flickr page alerted me to the fact that she produces some fabulous art on her page, but she also had an exhibition on in a gallery, Stacia’s Stories.

I teleported over there immediately and was simply blown away with the exhibition, as I am with her Flickr page.

There are those who like to detract from SL as ‘pointless’ or ‘just a game’, but I feel that when people as talented as these are are working in SL then it can never be dismissed in such a lazy manner. I would urge you  to try to visit one of SL’s many galleries where you will find some remarkable (often naked) art that is testament to their various creators’ skills.

Naturism is peripheral to this blog entry, but the fact remains that the naked body, in marble, in oils, in watercolour, in photography and now digitally, continues to fascinate and engage artists.


A study in solitude

In the bleak midwinter, frosty wind made moan,
Earth stood hard as iron, water like a stone;
Snow had fallen, snow on snow, snow on snow,
In the bleak midwinter, long ago.


Christmas, we are told, is a time of family and togetherness. But for many it’s possibly the loneliest time of the year.

Susan, our photographer, is much more inclined to capturing many of SL’s lovely photogenic sims than she is necessarily to photographing anything else. We all play SL in her own way and that’s hers.

So she was out in the Ponto Cabana sim, photographing winter when she chanced on an artist’s studio.

She took some photos, and I’ll let her explain in her own words in the IM she sent to me. ‘It occurred to me that creative types are prone to depths of despair, and the poses reflected that sense of despondency. So I got a male friend to pose, simply to illustrate how there can be a sense of loneliness in the act of creation and something that can lead to depression. It seemed apt for the holiday period where we’re sold the idea of togetherness, but it’s forced and actually drives people apart. So I ended up with a small portfolio I’ve called ‘Study in Solitude’ as well as some more general landscapes.’

I love it when someone essentially writes a blog post for me, lol.

I agree that the photos do convey a sense of loneliness that can become stark for many people at this time of year, and I love the photos. It can be bleak in midwinter, not only weather wise, but emotionally too. I suppose what I want to say is that there are many lonely people out there, and if you know of anyone liable to ‘a blue funk’ maybe now’s the time to reach out to them and offer some emotional support.