The Fab Free ‘Heatwave’ event : Pookes’ selection



My selection from the ‘Heatwave’ event at Fab Free HQ? It looks like I did pick up a couple of the same outfits Ella did, so I won’t reblog them and instead show the ones that Ella didn’t spot, buy or blog.

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Howie was online at the same time I was, so I yo’ed him over to the Wash and he picked up a pair of cargo shorts he liked while I was buying the gypsy skirt you see me wearing in the photos above and below. The pose we’re in is another L$10 grab at the cart sale.

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I also picked up the ‘Indian summer’ set. Ella just modelled the skirt, but I’ve popped on the ‘choli’ (blouse) that matches it.

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Ooh! I love this sarong. Just the thing to put on when heading to or from the beach. I note that there are dozens of bikini choices available in an assortment of cuts, styles and colours, but I opted not to buy them. Not a thing I’d wear on the beach! 🙂 Of course, if you aren’t naturist, you’ll be spoiled for choice.

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Something I liked, but didn’t buy, was this item from the ‘Battle Fairy’ cart…any of you who’ve visited the volcanic sand beaches of Gran Canaria will know all about how ‘dirty’ your feet look with the black sand, so certainly a thing of added realism to match the black sand on the beaches there. I opted not to buy simply because I wasn’t sure if the addition of slink feet was necessary to make them work properly, but I do like the idea of them as an added touch.



‘Heatwave’ Cart sale at Fab Free

Another cart wash is currently running at Fab Free. I love these events! A series of carts with some cheap, but always high quality, items for sale from a variety of designers. The current Cart Sale has items limited to L$10 in cost, so nothing you see here cost over L$10! Bargain! And with summer just around the corner, and certainly my own holidays a little more than a month away, I decided to head to Fab Free HQ and see what I could pick up for my ‘naturist wardrobe’. There are hundreds of things for sale, so these are just a selection, and all with ‘summer’ firmly in mind.

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First up is the ‘Ibiza’ pareo set. I’ve not seen anything in RL that resembles the top, essentially cloth left hanging -not tied at the back- to cover (or not 🙂 ) the boobs. I have to say that if I saw something similar to this in RL, I’d buy it!

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An ‘Indian Summer’ skirt. There’s a matching top, but I didn’t buy it because I adore ‘boho’ type skirts and would often pop something like this on when heading away from the beach.

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Night-time means going out for dinner. So something cool to wear, yet looks classy and almost formal, this ‘Jade dress’ would certainly be something I’d think of for evening wear.






And finally, in this tranche of Cart Sale items, a beach towel with a ‘revolving’ tanning pose.

Later, I’m hoping Pookes will deliver a series of items that catch her eye from the cart sale and we can post those too.



Let’s refocus attitudes to molestation, assault, rape and control.

Earlier in the week I posted a ‘great of gross’ piece which focused on a young woman who had decided to defy convention to stop shaving. The commentary subsequently focused on the way many men and other women like to be judgemental on others.

In a sense, this post is ploughing the same furrow, as it focuses on men seeking to control their women, with the added frisson on Islamic gender inequality, as well as looking at the way western society mirrors Islamic values and is just as guilty of looking in the wrong direction for solutions.

A Facebook page exists called ‘Be a man and don’t let your woman out in revealing clothes‘, with others emerging to fight ‘pro-Islamists’. This resulted in a counter-page being published, then taken down, then reinstated, calling for a ‘mini skirt day’.


For ‘the west’, nothing unremarkable. For parts of the Islamic world, shocking.

The story, which I picked up via the BBC, is also being reported across Europe, including France, where there is a sense of militancy, at government level, to ban full face hijabs. I hope I’ve translated it correctly in saying that t is being reported that a ban on mini-skirts in Algeria (via the El-Manchar website) is likely to be passed to stop molestation and to show respect for Islamic values.

I’ve no problem with ‘respect for Islamic values’, on the proviso that there is equal respect given to western values, which isn’t always the case, with some people arguing for an extension of certain laws and values being extended to western democracies. Sorry, we don’t or shouldn’t do that. But if respect is a two-way street, then certainly, we can respect Islamic values. The waters are going to be further muddied in respect of Algeria, a former French colony which is almost certainly going to be subject to deep historical association with France, and French values.

I do have a problem with ‘molestation’ being written in as an argument in favour of a ban on mini-skirts, and it’s not unique to Islamic culture. Why focus on the women? Shouldn’t any ban be focused directly on those molesting, that is, young men with a very, very screwed-up attitude that says ‘a lot of leg on display? Prime target for sexual assault or rape!’ (I should add that the same attitudes are often displayed in young western males, and we’ve got the ludicrous situation where senior policemen in the UK  and elsewhere have occasionally suggested that women shouldn’t dress ‘provocatively’ or get drunk: as stupid an utterance as any Imam). Indeed, feminism responded to a Canadian policeman’s suggestion women ‘shouldn’t dress like sluts’ with the birth of the Slutwalk.

The Slutwalk encourages women to dress ‘provocatively’, or ‘normally’, if you prefer, and highlight that, however they’re dressed, they’re ‘not asking for it’.




‘Society teaches don’t get raped instead of don’t rape’: no difference between Islamic and western teaching in this respect

My feeling is that this is a problem -control by men- shared by both Islamic and western women, with both being told how to dress by elements of society, be it Imams or the Canadian police, and both of these male-dominated bodies miss the point. The problem isn’t with the women, but with those ‘molesting’ or sexually assaulting or raping women.

We, the west and the Islamic world, should be addressing that, with some urgency, and stop the sub-conscious idea that ‘she was asking to be assaulted due to her mini skirt’.

In another story I read this week, a Turkish Imam has suggested that males who masturbate will ‘get their hands pregnant and they will need to look after the babies in heaven’. 

Hmmm…..surely masturbation, as sexual release, is infinitely preferable to molesting or assaulting or raping a woman?

Stories such as these feed back on what I and other bloggers have been discussing and analysing over the past couple of weeks: how men objectify women, in and out of SL, have no apparent social skills to understand how to speak to women, in and out of SL, and how, in many ways men, in and out of SL, seek to control their women in telling them how to dress, wear their hair, etc.

I know at least one female avatar who was told, in effect, ‘you would be pretty if you didn’t have such short hair…I’ll buy you a hair I like….’ The subtext to this was ‘and if I buy you hair that makes you fit with my ideal of beauty, you’ll sleep with me’. I’m sure that there are plenty of RL women who’ve experienced the same ‘I bought you two vodka and cokes, so the payback is sex’ attitude.